My thoughts on Pride Month

Why does being gay still feel weird sometimes - it sounds like a really strange question but for me it’s still a feeling I get, especially when pride comes around because I know it doesn’t mean the same for everyone. We were watching Love, Victor and they describe it perfectly - not every gay is the same. For a long time I grew up thinking being gay was being camp or feminine, and that’s not me, then I came out and I saw that side of the gay spectrum a lot. For a long time I resisted it, not watching RuPaul because it was “OTT” or flat out ignoring or laughing off camp things. Over the past couple of years I’ve slowly learnt to understand these elements of gay culture and, whilst it can be ridiculous at times, most of it is about positivity, confidence and just being you, regardless of how you decide to do that. Thinking back to my very first pride in London 7 years ago I wrote a blog saying I finally felt “accepted” and that’s still true today but I now also feel more comfortable just living life - living it for me, for Jake, for the dogs, for our friends, family and all of you guys.

So what does Pride mean for me now, I don’t know to be honest, owning Pobi I kind of feel like we have an obligation to acknowledge it but it doesn’t feel right, not because it’s not a great cause or movement, just because it’s not personal, everyone has their own story and you’ll rarely find two that are the same. So, we could make an arbitrary donation to charity X but I’d rather hear your stories. What does pride mean for you? Whether you’re straight, gay, bi, trans, non-binary or anything really. Do you ever feel like you’re not “something” enough? That may be camp, fun, interesting, peaceful - again I’m not picky just want to hear what you guys think.

It’s the first time I’ve been in the flow of writing one of these for a while and I don’t know when I’ll get time again but keep messaging us we read everything you send in, the good, the bad and the ugly!

Love, James

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